Karen Main

Lead a Life you Design and Love

  • Home
  • Blog
  • About
  • Life Coaching
  • Contact

The greatest reason of all to say no

August 27, 2015 By Karen Main Leave a Comment

Karen Main
The text said lunch.  I cringed, it was my busy week and I really didn’t want to go.

I knew they’d be disappointed if I said no.

I felt bad, ungrateful.  It’s nice to be included.

I replied yes and marked the calendar.

The day arrived and I felt that twinge of dread again.

I even had a whinge to my hubby that morning.

Why did I say yes?

Its’ not that I couldn’t go, I just didn’t feel like it and wanted some time to myself.

I should go.  I always go.  Its rude not to go.

I arrived, joining in with the idle chit chat and ordered a cuppa.

As the volume went up I fell silent.

My mind wandering as I mentally left the room.

How long should I stay to be polite?

Would anyone notice if I left?

Whats’ wrong with me?

Saying yes when you want to say no is the quickest way to suck the joy out of your day.  

It can leave you resentful and frustrated as you try to back out.

For a very long time this was the case for me.

I would say yes and then kick myself later.

I would say yes and show up even when I was running on empty.

I would over commit even when I had done my fair share.

There are limits to our energy, our attention and our time and when we push beyond those limits we are not at our best.

It is okay to simply say no because it’s how you feel.

When that nudge inside you says give this one a miss, honour it, honour you.

Instead of doing ‘the right thing’ and aiming to please everyone, offer a polite and honest no.

It can be hard to say no, I find it difficult too.

I don’t want to let people down.

I want to be liked.

I want to be the one you can count on.

More than all of this I want to be happy and I am not happy when I am trying to do it all.

It takes practice and a strong commitment to a live a life you love.

Know what matters most, what supports you and say no to the rest.

And remember; when you do say NO you give your YES much more value.

That’s right, once you can say No your YES will begin to mean so much more.

What could be better than that?

What do you want to say no to?

Signature large photo Signaturelarge_zps82b3ad36.png

Filed Under: Intuitive Feelings, Less can be More, What matters most Tagged With: life, no, yes

Leave a Reply Cancel reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Something just for you

Sign up for my weekly inspiration and you will also receive my six manifestos for keeping life SIMPLE for FREE
* = required field

Categories

  • Being Mum (50)
  • Captured Bliss (40)
  • Celebrate Madly (21)
  • Connection and Support (25)
  • Create and Explore (28)
  • Curiosity and Wonder (22)
  • Desire Map (14)
  • Feeling Fabulous (62)
  • Feeling Inspired (52)
  • Growth and Learning (75)
  • Intuitive Feelings (33)
  • Less can be More (29)
  • Outside your Comfort Zone (47)
  • Poetic Words (27)
  • Purpose and Meaning (68)
  • Self Care (7)
  • Time to reflect (43)
  • What matters most (80)

Event Calendar

Powered by Eventbrite

Meet Karen

Karen Main is a Life Leadership Coach for people who are ready to make a change in their lives.
Through her coaching, workshops and speaking gigs she’s here to help you design a life you love — while making it all feel like a celebration.
And when she’s not working, you can find her indulging in a long walk with the dog, laughing with her kids or at her favourite yoga class Read More…

Recent articles

  • How To Prepare And Set Meaningful Goals For 2019
  • Why You Want To Review and Celebrate before Setting Any Goals For This New Year
  • How to ease up on your dreams to get more of what you want
  • What are you willing to struggle for?
  • Why you want to start with the good, the bad and the wacky ideas

Something just for you

Sign up for my weekly inspiration and you will also receive my six manifestos for keeping life SIMPLE for FREE
* = required field
Follow me:

Copyright © 2022 Karen Main · Log in

 

Loading Comments...