Our self talk, the endless conversations we have with ourselves each and everyday.
The reminders; I mustn’t forget to pick up the milk.
The observations; Wow, that is beautiful.
The encouragement; You can do this, yes you can, you know you can.
The challenges; That is so amazing I am going to have a go at that.
The rehearsals; When I get there I am going to say ………
The replays; I can’t believe I said that, why didn’t I say…….
The planning; What am I going to cook for dinner again?
The self Loathing; You are not good enough, you say too much, you get it wrong, they don’t like you, you messed up.
On and on it goes everyday, constant chatter shaping our experiences and driving our attention.
Powerful conversations we can use to destroy and restrict ourselves or we can use to create optimism and joy.
It all begins when we wake up in the morning, those first few words we mutter to ourselves, setting the scene for the day ahead.
I didn’t get enough sleep I am going to be tired.
That was a rough sleep I will need to be kind to myself today and plan for an early night.
Then throughout the day……..
I have got too much to do, I will never get it all done.
I am going to highlight my 3 priorities today and feel happy when they are done.
I am fat.
I feel better when I make a healthier food choices.
I am so tired and I never stop.
I am going to take 5 minutes today to sit and slowly savour my morning coffee.
I am not getting anything done.
Things are taking longer than I thought today, I will shift some less important tasks to tomorrow.
I hate cooking dinner
I love nourishing myself and my family with home cooked meals.
I haven’t been to gym again I am so lazy.
I am going to schedule one gym class to look forward to this week, l feel amazing when I go.
So often this chatter goes on without us realising, we spiral into pits of despair and then continue to beat ourselves up with more toxic language.
Take a moment today and really listen to how you are speaking to yourself. Would you speak to anyone else that way?
Start your day well, use those magical early morning moments as you lie in bed to offer yourself kindness and enthusiasm.
Become your own best friend and cheerleader. It will change your day and your life.
Flip those ugly sentences around and imagine you are speaking with a much-loved friend, now what would you say?
Write it down and begin to regularly practice positive self talk.
Practice makes progress so let’s start right here and now. Share with me in comments what you plan to say to yourself as you wake up tomorrow.