I posted this picture last week as part of my photo day challenge.
The theme was “Something I Have Learned” and for me that is to never give up.
Over the years I have learnt, and believe, that rewards, the big fat juicy ones, come when we push ourselves beyond the urge to give up. I wrote last week about rejoicing in the resistance, the icky feeling that comes as we push further beyond the boundaries of our comfort zone.
A fellow Photoaday member challenged my message, to never give up. Here is what she wrote.
I used to believe the same thing when I was a PT. I lived by the motto ‘never give up’. Then I got so sick with chronic fatigue, became bed bound and my only option was to give up. I physically couldn’t do anything else. I learned that giving up is good for our health. The constant holding on and pushing ourselves in an already fast paced ‘no give up’ world is dangerous for our health. Give up, surrender now and then. It’s good for the soul.
This was my answer
I do agree with you. We often mistake never giving up with slogging down a path that no longer serves us and is leading to destruction. The desire to be fit and healthy is something I never give up on, that does not mean exercising to exhaustion, it is valuing rest and recuperation as part of the overall package. It does not sound like you gave up, it sounds like you have found a more effective, sustainable path to health and wellness.
I truly hope you are feeling much better now. – Karen Main
I wonder how often we fear giving up on the activity will mean giving up on the desire. Do we create more harm by forcing rather than switching?
Is there a time to stop what you are doing? Yes of course. It is foolish to continue to do anything that is causing harm, unhappiness and is leaving you unfulfilled.
Does that mean you are giving up? No, that is up to you.
Go back and revisit the initial desire, the feeling you were after, the goal that you set.
You started a particular diet to lose weight and you now feel fatigued and bloated. Explore more diets and alternative ways to lose weight. Quit this diet not the desire to be healthy.
You want a pay increase and more responsibility. Your boss is holding you back, turning you down. Look to other areas of the business, even look outside your company. Give up on your boss as the only way up, not the career you now dream of.
You want to improve your endurance and begin training for a marathon. You are plagued by knee injury leaving you miserable and demotivated. Consider taking up bike riding or swimming. Give up on the activity not the desire to improve your endurance.
The message is simple, Never, Never, Never Give Up on achieving all that you desire and don’t mistake it for slogging down a path of destruction.
What do you think? Is there a time to give up?