It was Sunday morning, I made a fresh pot of tea, the washing machine was whirring and the fire was blazing. I snuggled on the couch in my Pjs and began the detailed read of the children’s half-year school reports.
Eventually I headed up for a quick shower, leaving both reports sitting on the bench.
As I stood, with water cascading down, my Mumma heart swelled with pride as I recounted the glorious results and comments. Simultaneously my mind moving into top gear, conjuring up ways to begin addressing my areas of concern.
Maybe we will have times table races before dinner, we could play more maths games and the kids could write out my shopping list to practice more handwriting?????
As I wandered back down to the kitchen I noticed both kids were now reading their reports. Careful not to disturb this moment I quietly folded the washing nearby.
I was noticing their facial expressions change as they carefully considered the feedback in the report. All of a sudden little comments began to bubble forth from each of them.
I am good at that. I remember doing that. I loved this. I want to get better at that.
It all became very obvious, this is their feedback, their wins to celebrate and their opportunities to improve with action. Not mine.
I began to ask questions. Opening them up to more solutions, without thrusting my ideas in or preaching what to do.
We talked about what they had done well this semester, what was working and we celebrated this.
We then discussed what they could improve, where they could do better.
Bit by bit, moment by moment, question after question it all came together.
Even at the early ages of 9 and 7 they were both more aware of their opportunities for improvement than I was. And with my support and powerful questioning they were able to create a list of 3 individual goals for the coming term.
As the momentum continued they came up with their own fun ways to action their goals and finally we discussed how they would measure their results.
As they wrote and decorated lists to laminate and stick on the fridge, I reflected on the experience and the value in debriefing our results to improve performance.
Instead of tumbling forth and doing the same ole’ thing. Following that well worn path even when it takes you the long way round. When you feel that little nudge or hear the little voice whispering you can do better, take a moment.
Ask yourself these 3 questions, forge a new path and set forth with renewed vigour and clarity.
What are you doing well? High fives and keep on doing this.
What is not working so well?
What could you do differently?
This is your one beautiful life and no one else knows what you are capable of more than you.
Lets kick Yesterdays butt with a more Fabulous Today.
Make a commitment and leave me a comment.
Briefly tell me one thing you do well and will continue to do and one thing you will do differently.