After we moved I no longer had consulting rooms, a steady flow of word-of-mouth clients and a community who knew and supported my in person events.
Instead I was a stranger in a new city, lacking my usual confidence and flapping about like a fish out of water.
I was still working on my biz, pottering around, doing a bit of this, creating a bit of that. All without any solid commitment and plan for my offerings.
As a result my client base dwindled.
And, without clients it became easier to focus on more pressing urgencies at home…. like the vacuuming and cooking Blah!!! (True dinks that’s what’s happened). I traded the opportunity to add value and change lives for a tidy home and up to date washing.
Needless to say, it hasn’t been a fulfilling way to lead my life. I’ve had a gaping hole that achievement once filled, and I’ve let my career and momentum slide.
I was beginning to think I’d left my motivation down south.
Since then I’ve been tossing around ideas for how to ‘get back in the game’, to reignite my coaching business and redesign my offerings to compliment my new lifestyle.
But there’s been no push, urgency, no deadlines, no one to disappoint if I don’t show up, no clients waiting and so I’ve been holding back.
Until…. I heard of someone in need, someone looking for a new direction in life, someone I knew I could help.
I didn’t hesitate. “I’m happy to meet with her”, spilled from my mouth with ease.
In that moment I was back. Offering my services. Adding value. Booking in a Coaching Session. Doing what I love to do.
My motivation wasn’t lost. It was there all the time. It was generosity that finally motivated me.
I’ve often gained motivation to act from my desire to serve people, to help, teach and support the community I interact with. Somehow I’d forgotten that.
School teaches us to wait and meet the deadlines. To know when the test is, when the assignment is due, before we make time to study.
Work teaches us to do what we get paid for, to do what is asked of us, to fear the boss. We learn to follow instruction and meet performance criteria.
Even retail shops have taught us to fear missing the bargain, to wait for the urgency of the sale, to avoid the risk of paying more.
And so we wait for the motivation to act, the reason to do something now.
What if you were motivated by curiosity, kindness and generosity? How can I help? What can I do? Let’s experiment with that?
What possibilities would you see? What opportunities would you take, if instead of avoiding risks and the fear of missing out you acted from kindness.
What motivates us determines what we do and how we do it. And a different kind of motivation leads to a different outcome because we get more of what we respond to.
Approach each day in search of ways to add value, to contribute to support and you’ll feel your motivation rise….. beautifully, naturally and with ease.