It all sounded enticing, but I knew I had a lot on that week and I wanted an early night.
I didn’t answer. I put it aside.
I’ll come back to it.
A text message, brunch. I’d love to. Sounds great. Is that too indulgent? Guilt!
I’ll see how much work I get done.
I’ll reply later.
The school fete wants volunteers. How will I help? What could I do?
I check the stall roster. Not sure, I’ll think about it.
I’ll reply later.
What will I cook for dinner?
I don’t know, too hard.
I’ll stop in at the shop when I pick up the kids.
And on and on it goes.
Will I or won’t I?
Start now or start later?
Get it now or come back?
Postpone, delay, wait.
The cycle of inaction quickly adding layers of clutter to your life.
Emails piling up, papers floating across the bench, invites pinned to the fridge and those countless extra trips to the shops.
All of this chewing up memory and thinking power while you wait to decide.
Uncommitted you teeter on the fence, the unmade decisions lurking in the background, taunting you for attention and requiring new energy to come back to.
Indecision is both exhausting and distracting.
What’s holding you back from deciding?
Fear of missing out?
Fear of not being ready?
Fear of getting it wrong?
Fear of cutting off your options?
Fear of disappointing others?
Fear of later wanting to change your mind?
What if you trusted your instincts in the moment? That pull toward becomes a prompt yes and that shrinking away a polite no.
What if you honoured your desires, you knew what you wanted and you acted swiftly on this and moved on?
What if when you are reading the information, and there is enough to decide, you simply do that?
What if when you really want to go, you say yes and make it happen?
What if when you really don’t want to go, you say no and own that?
What if when you think of catching up with a friend you call and make a date then and there?
What if when you think of doing something you make a start?
The hovering, the shuffling the revisiting all takes up time, energy and focus and if you have already given your time, energy and focus then why go back and do it all again.
What is the worst that can happen if you decide and act now? Can you survive this?
This is your one great life, don’t waste it sitting on a fence exhausting yourself.
Make swift, heart centred, valued based decisions and save your energy and time for the good stuff.
For having fun and doing what you love.