I am the first to say if it doesn’t feel good then don’t do it, but don’t mistake the discomfort of growth as a reason to quit.
I’ve just spent 2 days at a marketing workshop feeling completely overwhelmed and out of my depth.
I arrived on day one all chipper, dandy and ready to learn. Within the first hour I realised this was a high level group of successful online businesses. Amazing women, with years of experience and layers to their businesses I’d never even considered.
By morning tea I was floundering and the enthusiasm was draining from my body. I felt like the only person in the room not getting it… and maybe I was.
I couldn’t stop questioning what was I doing there? Me with my learner hat on gulping down information and feeling inadequate.
I snuck out at the end of day, careful to avoid eye contact, not wanting to come back.
As I tossed in turned in bed that night I knew one thing for sure, hiding at home would never get me to where I want to go. I thought long and hard about why I signed up, about my goal to build my business, and my desire to serve more people and make a living doing work I love.
I wanted this more than any amount of discomfort and I knew this workshop was a big step forward on my business journey.
I was going back.
I won’t kid you, it was hard. As I stepped out of the lift I felt the tummy flutters.
This time instead of comparing myself to others I owned my journey and wore my learners hat with pride.
I was here to grow my business and that mattered. I was exactly where I needed to be.
The day felt completely different. Instead of feeling like I was drinking from a firehose of information I was now dancing with ideas for my future.
If you find yourself out of your depth and backing away from opportunities remind yourself you’re right where you need to be. It’s all learning.
Quit comparing (it never helps), be realistic about your own journey and trust you’ll be ok. I’m proof of that.
We all start somewhere and a life well lived is filled with growth and daring. This can feel scary, I know.
To be near the start means there is so much newness ahead of you, and that’s exciting.
Before you quit ask yourself:
Why did you sign up/say yes in the first place?
What will you gain from seeing things through?
What will happen if you don’t keep going?
What else could move you forward?
How many times have you said you want to be able to do this/make this change?
Every journey has a beginning, middle and end. You can decide to pull out at any point, but to be clear you then won’t reach your destination.
Do you want to live with regrets or are you willing to persist through the discomfort of growth?