We’ve all had one of those days.
Washing is piled high and it’s pouring with rain outside. The kids have parties and you promised to bake cupcakes. Work has called needing you to extend your shift… and you’ve remembered hubby needs his suit dry cleaned before the weekend.
It’s not even 9am and already you’re pushing aside what YOU wanted to do for YOU today.
For busy people there’s always more to do than time to do it… So what do you do?
Prioritise better, say no more, plan ahead, schedule the importants…. all very worthy and effective ways to manage your precious time and energy.
But you know this already, you know how to get a lot of things done, you know how to be busy.
What you don’t know is what’s getting in the way of you living that ease filled life you crave, and doing more of what’s important to YOU.
What blocks you, challenges you and throws you back into old habits and chase-your-tail mode.
Is it your desire to please? Do you over commit? Cram too much in?
Is it your need to feel valuable? Do you cringe at the “what did you do today” question? Do you feel unworthy?
Is it your haphazard planning? Do you fly by the seat-of-your-pants, not making the time to decide how you’ll spend your time each week, well before it begins?
Are you driven by a fear of being left out, or worse, disappointing someone? Do you say yes when inside you scream no?
Are you easily distracted? Do you chew through time mindlessly? Is social media sucking you in while that book you want to read lays idle?
Is it the perfectionist in you, wanting the world to see how good you are at balancing it all?
Is it the protectiveness of a parent who wants the world to be just right for her children? For them to never feel left out, unprepared, or uncomfortable? Even when she knows they’ll learn and grow from it.
Is it guilt that has you leaping about knowing there is more to do. More to do! Tell me when have you ever finished?
Most often it’s the expectations and responsibilities you put upon yourself. The nagging voice inside telling you to get things under control, that if you don’t do it nobody will.
The enormous pressure you’ve created to keep up, to get it right and to never ask for help, all while hoping one day there will be more time for you and it will all feel good.
The feel good you seek won’t come from being everything to everyone all the time.
The feel good you seek will come from intentional and deliberate actions that align with what you value and what matters most to you.
Ditching your desires for the wants and needs of others only leads to dissatisfaction and resentment.
Instead of finding ways to get more done, ask yourself what’s getting in the way of doing what you most want to do?
What sabotages your time, drains your energy and causes you to lose focus?
What are your challenges and obstacles and what can you do to overcome them?
Be honest, be real, get support and expose the truth, however uncomfortable, it’s the only way forward.
It’s time to stop surviving a hectic life of overwhelm and lead an ease filled life of fulfilment… This is your one great life after all.